We go to great lengths to catch guys’ interest and when worry ourselves to death that we’ll do something to lose it. Are we cute/thin/funny/good enough? Who cares? We’ve wasted so much time and sanity analyzing our behavior, guys’ behavior, and for what? To convince men they need us and we’re awesome? Forget that—let’s let them impress us instead.
1. IT’S NOT LIKE THIS IN THE ANIMAL KINGDOM.
We’ve all watched National Geographic. The males of most species are the ones that have the fancy colors, the enchanting calls, the seductive dances and other mating rituals. They’ll fight other males to the death and do everything in their power to maybe win the female’s attention. She just waits, observes, and decides. We should put this into practice in our own lives—sure, we don’t need guys to fight over us, but we shouldn’t fawn over a guy who isn’t willing to actually put some effort into showing an interest.
2. GUYS SHOULD BE WILLING TO PROVE THEY’RE WORTHY OF US.
The instinct to procreate drives our desire to couple up in life but things are a little different for men and women. We only have one uterus and can only have so many babies, but dudes can spread their seed wherever without limit. Why shouldn’t we be a little choosier when deciding which guy is the best for us? It’s all about supply and demand.
3. WE DIDN’T ALWAYS HAVE TO BEND OVER BACKWARD TO TRY TO GET A GUY’S ATTENTION.
Up until about 100 years ago, we still had all the choice in the world when it came to eligible bachelors. The wars, World Wars I and II in particular, killed off many of the men. The population of women, especially widows, tipped the scales. With fewer eligible bachelors, women started getting lonely and guys started getting lazy. It seems like that trend has continued all these years later and we’ve just accepted it. We need to up our standards again, ladies.